Happiness is when the love that is within us finds expression in mutual understanding.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Monday, March 30, 2009
越南博愛校友 be aware!
博爱校友聚会教导我们体育的王雄燦老师
8 意見:
Judy Ha 提到...
Looking at the picture of our physical education aid teacher Mr. vuong Tu ha, siting in the middle of our beautiful BAC Ai classmates; it makes me wonder is anyone has been lending money, or aid Mr. Vuong any help, during all these year in the California,u.s.a.like I had, when I first reunited with him in year of 1979 or so. After lending him the big lumsome of my entile saving at that time, (this money was to prepare for my parent to settle down in u.s.a. It is couple of thousand dollars, at that time, it was a lot, especially, that was all my saving, but to help him pulled through his financial crisis,and he was just divorce.Any victim like me but ashamed to mention, nor to be acknowledge. The reason I post this is to find out is any one has been too kindly helping our needed teacher,and being taking advantaged of. Furthermore, I hope my straight forward information will help him to realize , can not con anymore good hearted BAC Ai student in the near future.WARNING!
2009年3月19日 上午 12:11
Trinh Minh Chau 提到...
看過何揚眉的留言, 我真是感慨萬千, 我不能再保持沈默. 因為這件事始末由來我都知道. 七九年, 我剛到美國時, 体育老師王雄燦曾經來探訪過我家, 不見了好幾年, 再次見面倍覺親切. 當時他顯得有些落泊,我看著非常難過, 很希望能夠實質地幫助他. 然而我窮光旦一個, 愛莫能助. 當時何揚眉薄有儲蓄, 他就向揚眉借了她一筆錢, 隨即消聲匿跡. 揚眉於七五年孑然一身到美國, 讀書, 打工, 幾經辛苦, 好不容易有了一點儲蓄, 存著等待她父母來美相聚, 共享天倫之樂. 這筆錢對於她不只是 “金錢的價值”, 更代表了一個盼望, 寄望著一個更好的生活. 豈料這些儲蓄, 全部交給王老師 “救急”後, 就一去無還! 幾年的儲蓄全部泡湯, 誰能想像她當時淒楚, 徬徨的心情? 要知道當時她只有二十一歲啊!事隔多年, 過去的事早已煙消雲散, 心境也早已回復平靜. 當然揚眉大可一直保持沈默, 選擇 “忘記”, 而她本來也作如此打算的, 畢竟, 將隱藏多年的秘密露出來, 需要極大的勇氣和決心. 然而當她看見王老師竟然在同學會出現, 心想這一次不知又騙了那個好心的同學. 經過了一番考慮, 為了阻止有人利用昔日師生感情再來行騙, 終於決定打破沈默, 將這件事爆光, 給大家一個警暢, 不要再上當了!我衷心佩服何揚眉這份勇氣, 但願同學們能夠明白她用心良苦, 也願大家永遠彼此關懷, 互相守望!
2009年3月19日 上午 7:29
BacAi6551 提到...
揚眉,妳是信基督教的, 貼上這篇文章讓妳参考:豁免 農曆春節剛過。對中國人來說，有債務在身的人總得在年前躲避一番，唯恐債主討債。習俗中只要一過年三十，就不能逼債了。所以對負債者而言，熬過除夕是痛苦又必須的經歷。 我有個很會量入為出的母親，小時候，父親收入微薄，同學中許多和我們類似背景的人家，都得靠借債度日，但我們卻從未欠別人一分錢，就算是月底沒什麼錢了，媽媽也總是靈活運用配給的米糧，變點花樣，讓我們在不知不覺中度過難關，所以從不知欠債、躲債的滋味。大些時，和同學、朋友聊天，才發現許多同儕在幼年時，竟都有幫父親躲債、應付債主的經驗。多年後提及，輕描淡寫，但想像債主登門要債的情景，又逢除夕，家家戶戶喜氣洋洋的準備過年，只有自己家得大門深鎖，深恐有人上門，一有敲門之聲，大人就忙不迭的躲，要孩子去應付，想來身在其中滋味絕不是「好玩」！ 躲債難過，要債就好過嗎？也未必吧！聽過也親眼看見父母借錢給朋友，友情就沒了的經歷，體會到身為「債主」之苦。往往朋友借錢時，總是顯得誠摯而有確實需要，也總是斬釘截鐵的說明歸還日期，只不過一旦錢到他手上，何時歸還就很渺茫，而借方又不能坦然忘記這筆帳，於是雙方都有層尷尬。即使借方不開口要錢，或是根本沒有要債的意思，而欠債者卻總是心中有鬼，老覺得和債方見面不自在，久而久之，好友就疏遠了。為了防止走上這一步，怎麼辦呢？只有不借錢給人一途嗎？如果對方真的需要怎麼辦？ 有次和幾個長輩聊天，聊到這個話題時，有一位長輩說他不輕易借錢給人，但若知道對方真的需要，就抱著「給」對方的心態，把錢給對方，心裡從不記掛著這筆錢，就當是「給」出去了，如果對方一旦償還，反而是筆意外之財。另一位就說，他不只如此，除了借錢出去時，他會看清對方借錢的理由，如果不是必要，他也不借之外，借出之後，若過了一年對方還不還，他會用過年的機會找對方談，如果對方能還，很好，如果實在不能還，他就要對方不必再還他了，彼此的債在年前一筆勾銷，但若對方日後有能力還時，他建議對方把錢捐給社會中一些需要的機構裡去。 當時，覺得他的處理方式很不錯，一不濫借錢，但可救朋友之急；二不使雙方因為債務而損及友情；三呢！也可讓社會中某些有需要的團體多得到些幫助，而且也能使欠債者多少體會到一個有基督信仰的人之胸懷，真的是個好法子，對不？但要實際做，可能對許多人而言，仍會「不捨」，捨不得自己辛苦賺的錢就一筆勾銷了。 最近讀聖經申命記，看到其中論及債務的一段，講到每逢七年末一年，都要施行豁免，也就是凡債主都要把所借給鄰舍的豁免了，不可向鄰舍和弟兄追討。也就是說，七年就有一年「一筆勾銷」年，這是耶和華所宣告的。 我就想到，我們是否也可在自己心中定個「豁免年」呢！對別人過往所欠我們的，不論是金錢、情感，有形無形的帳都在經過這個「豁免」關卡的時候一筆勾銷，再也不算計、再也不必在心頭縈繞著別人欠我們的陰影。欠債的人要躲債主固然辛苦，但債主若日日數算別人的欠帳，別人又無法清償時，對債主而言何嘗不是一種折磨？ 在這個「討債」的季節裡，好不好給自己一個機會施行豁免呢？相信當我們免了別人欠我們的債時，我們所得到的報償遠比我們討到債還多呢！ （作者／金明瑋，原發表於宇宙光雜誌86年3月號）
2009年3月19日 下午 9:18
8 意見:
Judy Ha 提到...
Looking at the picture of our physical education aid teacher Mr. vuong Tu ha, siting in the middle of our beautiful BAC Ai classmates; it makes me wonder is anyone has been lending money, or aid Mr. Vuong any help, during all these year in the California,u.s.a.like I had, when I first reunited with him in year of 1979 or so. After lending him the big lumsome of my entile saving at that time, (this money was to prepare for my parent to settle down in u.s.a. It is couple of thousand dollars, at that time, it was a lot, especially, that was all my saving, but to help him pulled through his financial crisis,and he was just divorce.Any victim like me but ashamed to mention, nor to be acknowledge. The reason I post this is to find out is any one has been too kindly helping our needed teacher,and being taking advantaged of. Furthermore, I hope my straight forward information will help him to realize , can not con anymore good hearted BAC Ai student in the near future.WARNING!
2009年3月19日 上午 12:11
Trinh Minh Chau 提到...
看過何揚眉的留言, 我真是感慨萬千, 我不能再保持沈默. 因為這件事始末由來我都知道. 七九年, 我剛到美國時, 体育老師王雄燦曾經來探訪過我家, 不見了好幾年, 再次見面倍覺親切. 當時他顯得有些落泊,我看著非常難過, 很希望能夠實質地幫助他. 然而我窮光旦一個, 愛莫能助. 當時何揚眉薄有儲蓄, 他就向揚眉借了她一筆錢, 隨即消聲匿跡. 揚眉於七五年孑然一身到美國, 讀書, 打工, 幾經辛苦, 好不容易有了一點儲蓄, 存著等待她父母來美相聚, 共享天倫之樂. 這筆錢對於她不只是 “金錢的價值”, 更代表了一個盼望, 寄望著一個更好的生活. 豈料這些儲蓄, 全部交給王老師 “救急”後, 就一去無還! 幾年的儲蓄全部泡湯, 誰能想像她當時淒楚, 徬徨的心情? 要知道當時她只有二十一歲啊!事隔多年, 過去的事早已煙消雲散, 心境也早已回復平靜. 當然揚眉大可一直保持沈默, 選擇 “忘記”, 而她本來也作如此打算的, 畢竟, 將隱藏多年的秘密露出來, 需要極大的勇氣和決心. 然而當她看見王老師竟然在同學會出現, 心想這一次不知又騙了那個好心的同學. 經過了一番考慮, 為了阻止有人利用昔日師生感情再來行騙, 終於決定打破沈默, 將這件事爆光, 給大家一個警暢, 不要再上當了!我衷心佩服何揚眉這份勇氣, 但願同學們能夠明白她用心良苦, 也願大家永遠彼此關懷, 互相守望!
2009年3月19日 上午 7:29
BacAi6551 提到...
揚眉,妳是信基督教的, 貼上這篇文章讓妳参考:豁免 農曆春節剛過。對中國人來說，有債務在身的人總得在年前躲避一番，唯恐債主討債。習俗中只要一過年三十，就不能逼債了。所以對負債者而言，熬過除夕是痛苦又必須的經歷。 我有個很會量入為出的母親，小時候，父親收入微薄，同學中許多和我們類似背景的人家，都得靠借債度日，但我們卻從未欠別人一分錢，就算是月底沒什麼錢了，媽媽也總是靈活運用配給的米糧，變點花樣，讓我們在不知不覺中度過難關，所以從不知欠債、躲債的滋味。大些時，和同學、朋友聊天，才發現許多同儕在幼年時，竟都有幫父親躲債、應付債主的經驗。多年後提及，輕描淡寫，但想像債主登門要債的情景，又逢除夕，家家戶戶喜氣洋洋的準備過年，只有自己家得大門深鎖，深恐有人上門，一有敲門之聲，大人就忙不迭的躲，要孩子去應付，想來身在其中滋味絕不是「好玩」！ 躲債難過，要債就好過嗎？也未必吧！聽過也親眼看見父母借錢給朋友，友情就沒了的經歷，體會到身為「債主」之苦。往往朋友借錢時，總是顯得誠摯而有確實需要，也總是斬釘截鐵的說明歸還日期，只不過一旦錢到他手上，何時歸還就很渺茫，而借方又不能坦然忘記這筆帳，於是雙方都有層尷尬。即使借方不開口要錢，或是根本沒有要債的意思，而欠債者卻總是心中有鬼，老覺得和債方見面不自在，久而久之，好友就疏遠了。為了防止走上這一步，怎麼辦呢？只有不借錢給人一途嗎？如果對方真的需要怎麼辦？ 有次和幾個長輩聊天，聊到這個話題時，有一位長輩說他不輕易借錢給人，但若知道對方真的需要，就抱著「給」對方的心態，把錢給對方，心裡從不記掛著這筆錢，就當是「給」出去了，如果對方一旦償還，反而是筆意外之財。另一位就說，他不只如此，除了借錢出去時，他會看清對方借錢的理由，如果不是必要，他也不借之外，借出之後，若過了一年對方還不還，他會用過年的機會找對方談，如果對方能還，很好，如果實在不能還，他就要對方不必再還他了，彼此的債在年前一筆勾銷，但若對方日後有能力還時，他建議對方把錢捐給社會中一些需要的機構裡去。 當時，覺得他的處理方式很不錯，一不濫借錢，但可救朋友之急；二不使雙方因為債務而損及友情；三呢！也可讓社會中某些有需要的團體多得到些幫助，而且也能使欠債者多少體會到一個有基督信仰的人之胸懷，真的是個好法子，對不？但要實際做，可能對許多人而言，仍會「不捨」，捨不得自己辛苦賺的錢就一筆勾銷了。 最近讀聖經申命記，看到其中論及債務的一段，講到每逢七年末一年，都要施行豁免，也就是凡債主都要把所借給鄰舍的豁免了，不可向鄰舍和弟兄追討。也就是說，七年就有一年「一筆勾銷」年，這是耶和華所宣告的。 我就想到，我們是否也可在自己心中定個「豁免年」呢！對別人過往所欠我們的，不論是金錢、情感，有形無形的帳都在經過這個「豁免」關卡的時候一筆勾銷，再也不算計、再也不必在心頭縈繞著別人欠我們的陰影。欠債的人要躲債主固然辛苦，但債主若日日數算別人的欠帳，別人又無法清償時，對債主而言何嘗不是一種折磨？ 在這個「討債」的季節裡，好不好給自己一個機會施行豁免呢？相信當我們免了別人欠我們的債時，我們所得到的報償遠比我們討到債還多呢！ （作者／金明瑋，原發表於宇宙光雜誌86年3月號）
2009年3月19日 下午 9:18
Pass it on
When I posted the warning for our old classmate, was to gather our awareness, to passing on what I was going through. It didn't seem right to speak up what our Vuong teacher had been cheated me intentionally more than 20 years ago.
It troubled me not for the money that had been lost, but because I had been wrestling with my conscious in concerning to our BACAI friends good nature being. Therefore, I decide to break my silence, by getting even more people around the world on the Blog, together to be ware, also to celebrate what connect us---our past, present and future with truthfulness,compassion,and of course,love one another.
Hai Anh
想您們必知我多麼渴望能在有生之年, 還未老人癡呆前, 和好同學重溫昔日情.事實無論是好與壞,真與假, 任何人都沒權末殺, 我記不起是誰問揚眉是否基督徒, 是與否重要嗎? 很多人都很愛用聖經來教導別人, 特別是舊約, 我真的好想知道, 誰膽敢說自己守到舊約律法的教導和誡命? 我很感激那位提醒我小心的同學, 衷心感謝!數千元美金可能在某些人眼中沒大不了, 但揚眉當時是廿歲出頭單身在異鄉的小妮子, 錢丟了故然難過, 但莫過於被自己所敬重的老師欺騙!
試問假若有天某位同學也不幸遇上如揚眉的情況, 您們會安樂嗎? 這是什麽歪理, 隱惡揚善 ???借債還錢, 天經地義.主耶蘇教導門徒: 免我們的債, 如同我們免了人的債.(太 6:12)誰有資格要揚眉免債 ??? 況且我深信她是一番好意,避免再有同學遇上同類事件而已.聖經有另一個教導, 我們都是 神的管家, 上帝讓我們代衪管理一切, 包括金錢,子女...數千美元, 可以在中國供數位教師完成三年師範課程, 為祖國作育英才.在越南可以幫好幾十位孤兒呢!作為同學, 我們是否應該盡量聯絡到老師,讓他有機會向揚眉作個交代.如此對雙方都公平.讓揚眉辛辛苦苦賺來的錢可以用在有意義的事上吧!
試問假若有天某位同學也不幸遇上如揚眉的情況, 您們會安樂嗎? 這是什麽歪理, 隱惡揚善 ???借債還錢, 天經地義.主耶蘇教導門徒: 免我們的債, 如同我們免了人的債.(太 6:12)誰有資格要揚眉免債 ??? 況且我深信她是一番好意,避免再有同學遇上同類事件而已.聖經有另一個教導, 我們都是 神的管家, 上帝讓我們代衪管理一切, 包括金錢,子女...數千美元, 可以在中國供數位教師完成三年師範課程, 為祖國作育英才.在越南可以幫好幾十位孤兒呢!作為同學, 我們是否應該盡量聯絡到老師,讓他有機會向揚眉作個交代.如此對雙方都公平.讓揚眉辛辛苦苦賺來的錢可以用在有意義的事上吧!
Sunday, March 29, 2009
How to manage your fears after job loss
Lately, I've been working with many clients who've recently lost their jobs who are worried about finances and their future job prospects. Being unemployed can be very scary and challenging, personally and financially. It's a time that requires a great deal of faith and fortitude. Here's a list of tips that I recommend for all of our readers who have experienced a job loss.
Avoid negativity - Take a break from negative news and media. Even though the job market is tight, many companies are still hiring.
Reconnect with family, friends and former business associates, they may know of possible opportunities.
Re-visit your skills, talents and abilities. Perhaps you have skills you've forgotten or that can be applied in a different way or field than you thought possible.
Pay attention to how you are spending your time--it's your most valuable asset! Be proactive in your job search everyday.
Get support if you need it - you don't have to go it alone!
Create consistent self-care habits that will help you to stay healthy and positive. Eat well, exercise, take walks, pray, meditate, get plenty of sleep and avoid excess caffeine and alcohol.
Stay connected to others, be in community. Connect with others on Beliefnet who are also going through tough times and can offer you support.
Keep your eyes and ears open - opportunities can present themselves in unexpected ways and places.
Don't isolate yourself - get out of the house everyday and explore the job options in your own community.
Pray for God's guidance and support to help you find your perfect job.
Visit our Beliefnet gallery of Prayers for Jobs and Money. Here's a prayer for Employment: Heavenly father, please sustain my spirit as I search for new and meaningful work. You have blessed me with a healthy body and a keen mind for which I am grateful. I ask that you open my path as I seek employment that will allow me to support my family and myself while serving others and your divine purpose. In gratitude and grace, Amen.-
Avoid negativity - Take a break from negative news and media. Even though the job market is tight, many companies are still hiring.
Reconnect with family, friends and former business associates, they may know of possible opportunities.
Re-visit your skills, talents and abilities. Perhaps you have skills you've forgotten or that can be applied in a different way or field than you thought possible.
Pay attention to how you are spending your time--it's your most valuable asset! Be proactive in your job search everyday.
Get support if you need it - you don't have to go it alone!
Create consistent self-care habits that will help you to stay healthy and positive. Eat well, exercise, take walks, pray, meditate, get plenty of sleep and avoid excess caffeine and alcohol.
Stay connected to others, be in community. Connect with others on Beliefnet who are also going through tough times and can offer you support.
Keep your eyes and ears open - opportunities can present themselves in unexpected ways and places.
Don't isolate yourself - get out of the house everyday and explore the job options in your own community.
Pray for God's guidance and support to help you find your perfect job.
Visit our Beliefnet gallery of Prayers for Jobs and Money. Here's a prayer for Employment: Heavenly father, please sustain my spirit as I search for new and meaningful work. You have blessed me with a healthy body and a keen mind for which I am grateful. I ask that you open my path as I seek employment that will allow me to support my family and myself while serving others and your divine purpose. In gratitude and grace, Amen.-
A joy of today, I press on.
There is nothing can robe the joy of today! Despite the rising fear of our future, in the midst of our struggle, even the wrong doing from other to us in the past; God is always -bigger-than our circumstances. Instead of we so caught in that negative toxic things happening around us, or the critical spirit that would crush and destroy us, but through reaching and shaping our life by focus back to priority, such as family, friends, our love one and deep passion of our caring, understanding, trusting, and connect each other in comfort and encouragement together in our life journey.
Past, present, future..
Our lives are not as simple as they used to be, and the times we spend together are not as frequent as we would like.
But somethings never change...like the great feeling I get when I
think of somethings we have shared, or how grateful I have always been to have a friend like you...a friend who is so true.
Ten power questions
- When am I most naturally myself? What people , places, and activities allow me to feel most fully myself?
- what is one thing I can start doing, or do it differently, that would most improve the quality of my life?
- What is my gift/greatest talent?
- How can I get paid for doing what I love?
- Who are my most inspiring role models?
- How can I be the best to serve others?
- What is my heart's deepest desire?
- What are the blessings of my life?
- What is the foundation of my life?
- What legacy would I like to leave behind?
Friday, March 27, 2009
Thursday, March 26, 2009
colorful cave in Ha long bay
Whether it was funny, good, bad,happy,sad, ugly,or whatever happened in our past in our high school journey---do tell it all , because you are matter to us,and we do care what you had been keeping all these year, please do not hold back.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Point
The sunset in my back yard.
The difference between those who are able to rise above their adversities and those who get stuck in them
is their attitude.
Keeping oour eyes on the big picture, so that we do not miss the beauty of the moment.
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)